11 Self Care Quotes

Happy Valentines Day! I’m hoping you all have a great day spending time with the people that you love. As you’ve probably noticed by now, I love using Valentines Day as a great opportunity to celebrate Self Love as well as romantic, familial, and platonic love. So here are some of my favorite quotes about Self Love. I take some of the ones that talk about practicing Self Love so you can support others with a grain of salt. I think that you should practice Self Care and love yourself for you- and if others benefit, that’s great. But they still have good stuff to say, so I included them!

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Do you have any quotes about Self Care or Self Love? Let me know in the comments! Although please note that I had surgery yesterday, so I may be a little slow (or a little drugged up) in my comments.

 

Self Love

Valentines Day is coming up, and while I very much enjoy celebrating romantic love (my wife, Jess and I usually mark the occasion by eating chocolate and playing video games), I also think that the holiday is an excellent excuse to celebrate self love too!

As I think that I’ve mentioned before, I’ve spent a lot of time in Eating Disorder Treatment, which is basically a nice way of saying a butt load of therapy. Like, therapy 3 times a day. And a lot of the therapeutic emphasis is on self care and self love and all of those other ‘self’ things. So yeah, I’ve sat through a lot of group therapy on these topics.

And it may seem like I’m a self love zealot- I know, I have been talking about it a lot lately. But there are definitely parts of the self care thing that I think are silly, or don’t work for me.

For example, a lot of people have a really hard time with shame, and they need to put in a lot of time and effort to let that go.

And while I totally understand how it works, I don’t really experience shame (I do experience guilt, but that’s a whole different post), and so doing exercises around shame are sort of boring for me.

Self care though? I’m totally behind. Treating your mind and your body with care and respect? I’m all for it. I know that when I’m tuned in to what I need, I have more more energy, less anxiety, and I’m more flexible and less sensory sensitive. Win win, right?

There are lots of ways to care for and love yourself, and I’m just going to share today some things that I do in my day to days life.

Stimming is definitely the most important part of my self care routine. This is something unique to us neurodivergant folks, and doesn’t get included in most articles about self care. For me, this sort of self care takes two forms.

The first one is making time for stimming and sensory needs in my daily routine. I start my day with my favorite sensory friendly food (Cheerios). I take the time to knit. I wear clothes that are comfortable, tagless, with flat seems, and I buy the only socks that I find tolerable in bulk. I end my days lying in bed with my weighted blanket and my glitter lamp casting blue shadows on my ceiling, and I ease into sleep.

The second is certainly more challenging, but it’s also just as important. I call it sensory-on-the-go. And it’s a big deal because following my home routine is easy, really but dealing with the real world is hard. It’s really hard! You have to be able to sense what you need before you need it, because at least for me, by the time I realize that I need intervention, I’m not in a very good position to do it for myself. So on-the-go self care requires pre-planning, and, if you’re lucky, a buddy. So I don’t leave the house without a sensory emergency kit, and I check in with myself regularly, so meltdowns don’t take me by surprise. They still happen, but somehow it’s (a little) better if I know they’re coming.

I’m a total introvert, so this type of self care seems like the opposite of what would work, but I’ve learned that I need to connect with people. If given the choice, I’d go days without talking to anyone except my cats, and if you’d asked, I would say that this is the ideal situation, and that I was very happy indeed. And don’t get me wrong, I definitely need quiet me time, but as I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that I really benefit from interacting with people. So I volunteer, and I play music with people, I interact at church, and I connect to my awesome internet community. And while there are days when I don’t want to talk to anyway (not even the cats), that’s fine, because I know that my connections will be there waiting for me when I come back.

There are dozens of other things I do to take care of myself, and if I listed them all, this post would be 26 paragraphs long, and you’d probably have gotten bored 19 paragraphs ago. So here are a just a few more things that I think are worth mentioning, and then I promise that I’m done.

Hot hot hot showers. I hate being wet, so I sit on the floor of the tub and let the steam come rise up around me. I also like talking to myself in the shower, which is apparently a thing?

Bookstores. There’s nothing more calming than being surrounded by books. Especially if they’re used, cheap, and smell good.

Watching movies I’ve seen over and over again. Being able to predict every line and every song makes me feel safe. Props to Moana, Into the Woods, and Sondheim! The Birthday Special.

I feel really grateful for my time in treatment because it let me think critically about how I treat myself. Learning about who I am and what I need has let me practice self care, which in turn has led to self love.

I hope you guys are able to send some love to yourself this week, because Valentines is about all types of love, including self love. Happy Early Valentines Day!

 

Self Love Playlist

List Wednesday is going to be a little different this week, as the list is technically very long. I love music, and the right song (or songs), can make me feel empowered. There’s nothing like blasting a song and singing along at the top of your lungs to make you feel the love- the self love.

I made a Spotify playlist of some of my favorites. It’s collaborative , so if you have a favorite, feel free to add it and let me know in the comments!

If you don’t have access to Spotify, here’s the contents of the playlist!

  1. I’m Good- The Mowgli’s
  2. King of Anything- Sara Bareillesd
  3. Everybody- Ingrid Michaelson
  4. Born This Way- Lady Gaga
  5. I Like Giants- Kimya Dawson
  6. Transgender Dysphoria Blues- Against Me!
  7. You Learn- Alanis Morissette
  8. Confident- Demi Lovato
  9. Unpretty- TLC
  10. Superwoman- Alicia Keys
  11. Beautiful- Christina Aguilera
  12. F*ckin’ Perfect- P!nk
  13. Freckles- Natasha Bedingfield
  14. How Far I’ll Go- Auli’i Cravalho
  15. Love Myself- Hailee Steinfeld
  16. Try- Colbie Caillat
  17. Stronger- Britney Spears
  18. Let It Go- Idena Menzel
  19. Reflection- Lea Salonga
  20. Roar- Katie Perry
  21. Brave- Sara Bareilles
  22. Girl On Fire- Alicia Keys
  23. I Am Not My Hair- India Arie
  24. Be OK- Ingrid Michaelson
  25. Happy- Pharrell Williams
  26. True Colors- Cyndi Lauper
  27. Don’t Be Shy- Cat Stevens
  28. Greatest Love of All- Whitney Houston
  29. I Got This- Jennifer Hudson
  30. Fly- Avril Lavigne

Hope you enjoy some of these, crank up the tunes and have a virtual dance party for me!

Inherent Worth

*This is the first in a series I’m working on doing about Self Love in honor of Valentines Day*

If you’ve heard me mention church before, you may have been curious about what religion I belong to. Or not. But either way, stick with me for a bit.

I’m a Unitarian Universalist, part of the .3% of people in the US that are. We have a reputation for being overly liberal, for picking and choosing what parts of religion we like, and for being all around stinking hippies.

We’re also known for running late. For everything.

We’re able to be such an open community because unlike many other religions, we have no dogma or creed, and we don’t require anyone to believe anything. What we do have, however, are 7 Principles that describe what we believe Unitarian Universalism is all about.

So why am I talking so much about church?

It’s because of the first of our 7 Principles. The number one thing that UUs think is important is ‘The Inherent Worth and Dignity of Every Person.’ 

Every time I say this, I get warm fuzzies, because this is something that I feel strongly about. I believe in respecting everyone, and knowing that no matter who I’m talking to, that they’re important.

But what does this have to do with Self Love?

I’ve realized over the last year that I’ve been letting my favorite Principle down. In all my intellectual respecting of people, I forgot one thing: Me.

I am a person, and I have inherent worth and dignity. How could I miss this? I’ve been pretty awful to myself for a long time now, and I definitely haven’t treated myself as though I had worth or dignity.

So what does it mean to treat myself as though I have worth? I need to stop telling myself that I’m worthless, for sure. Because I do have worth- inherent worth even, just by existing. And I think I need to be more gentle with myself- I’m doing the best that I can right now, and even if I’m not able to do everything, I’m still worthy of having a good life.

And for dignity? I need to start respecting myself. Looking deep inside and finding pride in who I am. I think that treating yourself with dignity is a great foundation for self love, because all it asks is that you give yourself the care and respect that you’d give another person.

Even after researching and intellectualizing and writing this, I still find it hard to hold in my head, but I think it will come with practice. I think for many of us, self love is a challenge because we, as humans, tend to compare ourselves to others, and I know for me, when I’m surrounded by people my age who are successful functioning adults, I tend to get down on myself. I forget that while doing everything that my peers can do would be nice, I’m not them. But no matter what I can or can’t do, I inherently have two things.

Worth and Dignity.

Can You Relate?

I run my hands over something soft

Something bumpy, something smooth

There’s no describing how good it feels

Can you relate to that?

 

I’m in a place that’s much too crowded

Too much noise, too much light

My senses hurt me, overwhelmed

Can you relate to that?

 

Engaging with my favorite things

Special Interests, special joy

Makes me want to jump and flap

Can you relate to that?

 

Talking to people I do not know

Try to smile, try to listen

Being polite is a social requirement

Can you relate to that?

 

Accepting that I’m a bit different

Always have been, always will

I’m starting to love who I am

Can you relate to that?

Who is Brave?

Who is Brave?

via Daily Prompt: Brave

Do you know who I think is brave?

Me.

And if you think I’m being arrogant, then you can leave now.

Because I do things that are brave 24 hours a day, 365 days a year.

And it’s taken me a long time to see that.

To own that.

And what are these heroic acts, you ask?

I get out of bed.

I haven’t always been able to do that.

So now I celebrate it.

I fuel my body with food and water.

I’ve deprived it for so long.

So it’s only fair to make it up to myself.

I think about my future.

I’m 29 and I didn’t think I’d make it past 20.

The thought of living can be paralyzing.

But I do it anyway.

Celebrating bravery requires the ability to love yourself.

Even if it’s only for small moments.

My moments are adding up.

Do you know who I think is brave?

Me!